Originally posted on my "old" blog ... August 15, 2010
So, this is a blog post that I have been writing in my head for years
(that's my way of saying don't take this as a slam on the current man in
my life ♥) ... but it seems to be an ongoing theme in my relationships
with men and in those of my friends with their significant others. I
have heard it reversed and I will get to that as well!
So,
let's start with that line; "I want you to want to do the dishes" ...
for those of you that don't know where that line is from, it is from the
movie,
The Break-up Jennifer Aniston's character says it to
Vince Vaughn's character after a party has occurred at their house and
he sits down to play video games while she is in the kitchen doing the
dishes. She of course is angry, she wants his help, he responds and says
basically fine, I'll come help, she says something like I don't want
you to do it because I'm asking you to, and then says "I want you to
want to do the dishes" ... he of course finds this ridiculous, stating,
"who would want to do the dishes?"
Unfortunately, the metaphor in all that is one that most women know very well, and some
There
was a study I heard about on the radio several years ago that touched
on this ... and now here is another one that came out a few months ago
... with this news report of a study headed by Dr. Gabrielle Morrissey
.. has brought it to headlines again ... and then anyone that has been
familiar with MySpace/Facebook or the bumper sticker bulletin boards has probably
at some point seen a sticker or icon that resembled the one to the
right ...this is actually something I have given a lot of thought to
lately, although not in the terms that the studies imply, I have a
little different take ... but it's related in many ways ...
So
the studies say that our romantic comedies and chick flicks create
unrealistic expectations for romantic grandeur and communication and
even sex ... that we then have this idea of how a relationship should be
based on the romance involved in movies such as Notting Hill, Runaway Bride, You've Got Mail, The Wedding Planner & While You Were Sleeping
... just to name a few that are listed in the news reports and studies
... and I will preface all of what I'm about to say that those listed
above and the rest of the movies that I will list are among some of my
favorite movies and I appreciate a chick flick and romantic comedy as much as anyone else ... but now here is my take ...
