Originally posted on my "old" blog ... October 4, 2010 ...
There
was a study I heard about on the radio several years ago that touched
on this ... and now here is another one that came out a few months ago
... with this news report of a study headed by Dr. Gabrielle Morrissey
.. has brought it to headlines again ... and then anyone that has been
familiar with MySpace/Facebook or the bumper sticker bulletin boards has probably
at some point seen a sticker or icon that resembled the one to the
right ...this is actually something I have given a lot of thought to
lately, although not in the terms that the studies imply, I have a
little different take ... but it's related in many ways ...
So
the studies say that our romantic comedies and chick flicks create
unrealistic expectations for romantic grandeur and communication and
even sex ... that we then have this idea of how a relationship should be
based on the romance involved in movies such as Notting Hill, Runaway Bride, You've Got Mail, The Wedding Planner & While You Were Sleeping
... just to name a few that are listed in the news reports and studies
... and I will preface all of what I'm about to say that those listed
above and the rest of the movies that I will list are among some of my
favorite movies and I appreciate a chick flick and romantic comedy as much as anyone else ... but now here is my take ...
These amazingly romantic movies ... the ones we watch and cry and sigh and wish that our lives, our relationships could just be that terribly romantic ... almost all of them ... involve cheating on some level and the hero or heroine breaking somebody's heart ... so is that the message that these films send that hurts relationships ... the grass is greener idea ... the idea that someone can come along while you're in a relationship and sweep you off your feet and that will be your happily ever after
